Things just get messed up you know?! They don't go your way or you make a seemingly minor mistake and it turns in to a clustermess-crapstorm.  All of a sudden your plans are in the air and you don't know what the mess just happened. Well it would seem like this exact scenario is at times is my marriage. I make a seemingly harmless comment/joke or he replies a little to sharply and before I know it we are in a flat spin of misunderstandings, hostility, and hurt feelings. This brings the next morning or me to the fact that not all is well after I’m sorry. They can drag on and rear their ugly heads at the most inopportune moments like on the way to get ice cream with someone’s children and there is a fight over the gage in the gas tank going down which was really just a chance to pick at someone’s wife over nothing because someone wasn't over the mornings mishap and weren't adult enough to say "I'm not over it yet" or something like that. You know these things they happen and after you are over them looking back you say to yourself "was it really worth all the strife?" Most of the time the answer is no, no it wasn't, but things like lack of sleep, food, water, sex and pride/ego get us all jack up and allow us to lose site of what is important which is the 'us'. Relationships aren't about one person and neither is a fight they are about the 'us' and what is best for the 'us'. So next time you are in a fight reeling and thinking "What the mess just happened here?!" remember to take a step back and look at what is good for the "us" not just what is good for the "you" and the "me".

What's in a name ? Apparently a whole hell of a lot at least according to the National Bureau of Economic Research people with "white" names such as John, Emily, and Greg are more likely to get called back when sending out resumes then People with "black/ethnic" names like LaLasha, Jamal, or Keishan. In fact they are up to 50% more likely to be considered for a job then applicants with ethnic names. Are you mad yet? Because I am. Being a person with an "ethnic" name it makes me livid. I mean my blood boils to hear that my name has disqualified me for jobs without my application even being read. It is SHAMEFUL and WRONG! The wrongness is on the same level passing judgment because of someones skin color, religion, or being an emigrant. None of those factors makes someone a bad person, predisposed them for good or band work ethic, and neither does a name. It is silly and unfair.

I do think parent should may be reign in the crazy name but no so there children can be considered for jobs but so kids won't be so mean. Having a unique name doesn't make life any easier gowning up. But, that is children not grown adults that know better then to judge a book by it's cover or a person by their name.

Pet reform. It is a wide known fact that I don't want a pet... ever.Just like some people don't want kids. I don't want pets. With that said I think it is important that we treat our pets better if you want to treat/ call your pet your like it's a baby then you need to pretect it like it's your baby sterilize it. Stopping the needless ,well not needless, but preventable euthanisia of shelter animals every year. Make spay and nuetering manditory and give fines if it hasn't been done how do you enforce this you ask at the pet lisencing office make the potential pet owner show proof of sterilazation or proof of appointment to have the animal sterilized when they are applying for the lisence. Require the public and privet vet offices to confirm that it has been done. What if it isn't done you ask? Fines ! Fine the shit out of them. If you are found to have a unregistered pet even bigger fines and public service for all. They hand out out jail time like it is candy but public service is greatly over looked. Free labor in a time when we need people doing more for less. I say use non-violent criminals! Tangents oh how they claim me. Back on track! The fines... They will be steep. The fine would be however much it is to house a abandoned dog perday compounding. This fine will beforgiven if you show proof of spay or nuetring with in 60 days of the fine being first applied. Why does this need to made the law you ask? Peolple will just do it one there own to wich I say open your fucking eyes don't be so nieve! People don't pay taxes if they don't have to they don't stop for pedestrian I should know I have been hit twice in cross walks when (I had the right of way) and they sure as shit don't sterilize their animas because if they did shelters wouldn't be over run with abandoned animals mostly puppies and kittens! Do the right thing before a law makes you!


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And by 'it' I mean a newyears resolution. Normally people vow to eat better, work out more or eat better ect. Not me! I am going to stretch more. I know what you are thinking. You are saying to yourself sure great resolution stretch more big woop! Oh but it is ,dear reader it is. I used to be very flexible. Shamelessly stripper style flexible. I want to get back to that and I know my husband isn't going to turn his nose up at the idea. so I have constructed a stretching plan the includes daily prolonged stretching to take place during nap time and after bedtime. So we shall see.


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This s my non mommy mommy blog I have two blogs and I'm like why not use them for totally different things. I will some times slip and talk about my day with the kids, but this is really a blog for me and about me. My journey with weight loss, my impending vegan experiment, my feeling about the country and where it is headed. You know, my life as a women not just a mom. I am resolving to be LaLasha more, lets see how it goes!

Well it has been 4 long years and guess what I am no longer a love spinster. I am a married fully functional, healthy, happy women and mother of two

I think that I'm falling out of like or lust or love I'm not sure what it is but I'm fall out of it I feel bad I feel like I'm some how betraying him I am a fickle person fickle horrid person