Things just get messed up you know?! They don't go your way or you make a seemingly minor mistake and it turns in to a clustermess-crapstorm.  All of a sudden your plans are in the air and you don't know what the mess just happened. Well it would seem like this exact scenario is at times is my marriage. I make a seemingly harmless comment/joke or he replies a little to sharply and before I know it we are in a flat spin of misunderstandings, hostility, and hurt feelings. This brings the next morning or me to the fact that not all is well after I’m sorry. They can drag on and rear their ugly heads at the most inopportune moments like on the way to get ice cream with someone’s children and there is a fight over the gage in the gas tank going down which was really just a chance to pick at someone’s wife over nothing because someone wasn't over the mornings mishap and weren't adult enough to say "I'm not over it yet" or something like that. You know these things they happen and after you are over them looking back you say to yourself "was it really worth all the strife?" Most of the time the answer is no, no it wasn't, but things like lack of sleep, food, water, sex and pride/ego get us all jack up and allow us to lose site of what is important which is the 'us'. Relationships aren't about one person and neither is a fight they are about the 'us' and what is best for the 'us'. So next time you are in a fight reeling and thinking "What the mess just happened here?!" remember to take a step back and look at what is good for the "us" not just what is good for the "you" and the "me".